Friday, August 7, 2009

Your Joy!

I just saw a video on YouTube that rocked my face off, as my friend Brooke used to say.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8DCt3Lmi28&feature=related

Apparently, a lot of people have already seen it, so you might be one of them. If so, I apologize.
I've been thinking about weddings a lot lately, so when my friend Jody just told me to watch this video, I got inspired to write down my thoughts.

I've been to exactly two weddings in my life that were joyous. I've always wondered why, on what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of a person's life, the ceremony accompanying the happy day is usually so solemn, staid, and stuffy. It never feels like a happy day, especially to the guests. It just feels like something you have to do because your friend, brother, ex-girlfriend, sister, cousin, of boyfriend's brother, etc...is getting hitched. Weddings tend to feel like a chore.

So after seeing this video, I realized that when and if I ever get married, I want it to be like that.
I want people laughing, dancing, wearing sunglasses, throwing flowers, drinking champagne, and toasting me and mine from the beginning of the ceremony to the end of the reception.

If I get married, it's going to be because I am so in love, and so happy about it, that I want everyone I know to come and share in that happiness. I don't want anyone to stress out, or be put out, or worried about my day. I don't want anyone to be worried about buying new clothes, or getting me the right gift...I want a throwdown style party. No solemn music. No tears, unless they are from happiness and laughter.

Of course, right now, I don't have the option of getting married because some people believe that my love and commitment is less meaningful than theirs. Hopefully that will be changing soon. I'm in the mood for a party!